What is Love?

I feel indifferent towards love today. Not sure what set it off, but something did. Perhaps it was when the first person said to me, "How are you doing today." I was doing fine until they probed. Was that taking it a little too personal? Perhaps. So I had some Hershey's dark chocolate kisses and created this blog.

So what exactly is love? This morning as I dropped my son off, I hugged him and whispered "I love you." He didn't say it back this morning but usually does. So I just take yesterday's with me as I am sure he did not mean to forget to say it. The purpose of saying 'I love you' is not so that the other person can say it back. It's so that you express your love unconditionally. I have been using that word a lot this week, unconditionally. I was discussing with someone else that one way to avoid feeling bad that someone didn't thank them for their gift is to always give unconditionally. That way if you do get a thank you, it's a welcome surprise. Same thing with the whole saying 'I love you' business. Don't expect it back, that way when you do get it, they mean it and it's means much more.

Love shouldn't be forced. You don't do things for other people expecting they should now love you. That would be, hang on now, conditional love. I love and give freely without conditions. I feel freer that way. I don't want anyone to ever give me anything or say 'I love you' because they think they have to - that means nothing to me. And I won't give someone my love just because they spent $80 on a lap dance for me that I didn't even ask for.

Love starts to lose it's power when we start to throw it around as a way to keep people happy. Why do we fear upsetting other people so much that we are so willing to lie about our feelings. Don't lie about love, it's not fair to either of you. In the long run, the truth will be revealed anyway and one of you will be left hurting emotionally and the other physically cuz she's gonna kick your ass.

So on this Hallmark day of love, I hope everyone loves unconditionally as they do every day of the year. Don't buy those flowers or candy because you feel you have to, do it because you love her and honestly feel she deserved to be honored today.